The first question:
Not to be identified with mind and body – still I don’t know how to do it. I tell myself: you are not the mind, don’t listen to your fear, love yourself, be content, etc., etc.
Please explain again how not to get identified or, at least, why I still don’t understand you.
It is not a question of telling yourself that you are not the mind, you are not the body, because the one who is telling it is the mind. That way you are never going to get out of the mind. All telling is done by the mind itself, so you will be emphasizing the mind more and more. The mind is very subtle; you have to be very, very alert about it. Don’t use it. If you use it you strengthen it. You cannot use your mind to destroy your mind. You have to understand that this mind cannot be used for its own suicide.
When you say, “I am not the body,” it is the mind saying so. When you say, “I am not the mind,” it is again the mind saying so. Look into the fact; don’t try to say anything. Language, verbalization, is not needed; just a deep look. Just look inside, don’t say anything. But I know your trouble. From the very beginning we are taught not to see but to say. The moment you see a roseflower you say, “How beautiful!” Finished; the roseflower is gone – you killed it. Now something has come between you and the rose. “How beautiful it is!” These words will now function as a wall.
And one word leads to another, one thought to another. And they move in association, they never move alone; you will never find a single thought alone. They live in a herd; they are herd animals. So when once you have said, “How beautiful is the rose!” you are on the track, the train has started moving. Now the word beautiful will remind you of some woman you once loved. The rose is forgotten, the beautiful is forgotten, now the idea, a fantasy, imagination, memory, of a woman. And then the woman will lead to many other things. The woman you loved had a beautiful dog…here you go! And now there is no end to it.
Just see the mechanism of the mind, how it functions, and don’t use the mechanism. Resist that temptation. It is a great temptation because you are trained for it, you work almost like a robot; it is automatic.