I am reminded of a recent incident. In India, before freedom came to that country, there was great struggle between Hindus and Mohammedans because Hindus wanted the country to remain one, undivided. It was favorable to them because they were the majority religion. If India was undivided, then Mohammedans had no possibility of ever being in power; they were the second majority religion.
The Mohammedans wanted a separate country and they had their reasons: “We have a different language, we have a different religion, we are a different race, we cannot live together.” But the basic reason was not language, not culture, not race, because they had lived together for two thousand years, so there was no problem about that. The real thing was, having a separate country on their own, they would have power.
The leader for an undivided India was Mahatma Gandhi, and the leader for the division of India and for a new land, Pakistan, for Mohammedans was Mohammed Ali Jinnah. They were archenemies their whole life.
In 1948 Gandhi was shot dead. Mohammed Ali Jinnah was now governor general of Pakistan. He was sitting on the lawn as the news reached him that Gandhi had been shot. The person who had brought this news thought that he would be happy to hear it – that his long, long enemy is dead. But he was surprised: Jinnah became sad, and he went into the house and told his secretary that he should not be disturbed. “If Gandhi is dead, much of me is dead too, because we defined each other.”
A great insight – the enemy also defines you, in the same way as the friend defines you. Jinnah lived only one year longer, and he was never again seen so happy as he used to be; the last year was just sadness. Without Gandhi a gap, a great gap…. A life-long enmity is a relationship, a deep relationship. And the man of understanding will love the enemy too – not for any spiritual reason, but for the simple reason that he is defining him, he is part of his existence. Without him there will be a gap which nobody else can fill.
The question is not “love your enemies” the way Jesus says it. That is simply egoistic: love your enemies because you are a superior spiritual being, and he is just an ordinary human being; love him, show him the true path of spirituality. But it is just fulfilling your own ego.
I will also say, “Love him,” but not for the same reasons. I will say, “Love him,” because he defines you; he is part of you, just as you are part of him – not only the friend, but the enemy too. It does not make you “holier than thou.” It is a simple understanding of how psychology functions.
Love yourself. But you can love yourself only if you drop the idea of being a sinner. You can drop the idea of being a sinner if you drop the idea that there is a god. If there is a god, you are a sinner; you cannot be anything else. If there is a god, then you are a sinner. You have been expelled from the kingdom of god, and you will be accepted back only if you become obedient – so obedient that you lose your individuality to a hypothetical god whom you have never ever seen and whom you will never see.